I may have mentioned before that we aren’t finding out at Week 20 if it’s a girl or a boy. You are either thinking how crazy and silly that is and how you could never do that because you must know, or you’re thinking “good for you, it’s fun to wait.”
We have heard all the reactions and seen many different facial expressions. I just don’t want to know until it is born. It’s kind of ironic that I don’t want to know. Many people say they are “too Type A” to not know. They say they need to be ready and in control and have everything ready for the arrival. I get that, and I am as much of a planner as they come! Usually, I want everything in its place and planned out ahead. But on this, I don’t want to know. And I’m sure of it.
Many ask how I’ll plan a room and coordinate items. What color bedding will I do and what will I paint the walls? What color towels and toys and clothes should I register for? “Aren’t I going to end up with a bunch of green and yellow?” Those are all just things, and I know it can all be added to a room quickly. Pink and blue aren’t the only colors for a room either.
On one hand, I think it’s strange too. If technology can tell me, why wait? I did the tests for genetic diseases because the option was there. Why not have everything in place and ready to go before it arrives? I also don’t think we’ll do the 4D ultrasound if offered in the last trimester. I don’t think I want to see those details until it’s here.
But I really like the idea of the big “It’s a __!!” at the delivery and how exciting that is. I think it will really help motivate me through the last few weeks and labor to know a big surprise is coming.
Would you/did you find out?
We are definitely planning to find out, I figure it will be a ‘surprise’ on the day we find out anyways. I think its cool to wait if that is something that makes you happy. I don’t plan to register until we find out if its a boy/girl. Good luck!!
After tossing up for ages, we have JUST made the decision to find out at our 20 week scan in a couple of weeks time. I might change my mind if I feel some movements before then, but right now I’m having trouble going from early pregnant and terrified to accepting that OMG we’re going to have a son/daughter, and I think removing one of those options might help… Some of me still wishes we were waiting though!
I love that you aren’t finding out! We aren’t either, and everything you wrote I could have written in exactly the same words. My friends are absolutely shocked when I say I want it to be a surprise, because I am a planner to beat all planners. But for this, I have always known that I wouldn’t want to know until the moment of delivery.
We go for our 20 wk ultrasound on Thursday and I’m so excited to see how much the baby has grown. I’ve been feeling all sorts of movements and kicks for the last 3 weeks, so I know he/she is a feisty one!
I’m so excited to feel movement sometime soon! Good to know yours started around 17! And fun to not know until the end, right?
I’m so with you! I’m not pregnant nor do I plan to be anytime soon but I’ve always said I want it to be a surprise! My whole family thinks I’m crazy but I’m certain I don’t want to know if it’s a boy or girl until he/she is brought into the world. Good for you
So happy to hear you are not finding out! It is the best surprise and so fun for the daddy to have a job announcing the sex of the baby to family and friends. Be strong. It is worth the wait!
I wanted to find out, each and every time. Even so, my oldest biological child refused to show himself…either a foot was in the way or he was turned the wrong direction. Those words “it’s a boy!” were some of the most joyous words ever spoken.
I am excited for you!!