Never did I realize how much stress is put on baby’s sleep before we had our baby. I also didn’t think we would be 4.5 months in and rarely sleeping through the night. I thought we’d have this figured out by three months.
Logan has been a good sleeper since he was born. Pretty much since Week 2, he would wake up just once a night. Really, since Week 2. We thought we were making great progress. We had a few weeks of growth spurts where there were two wake ups for food, but then it was back to once a night. Logan has slept all night long maybe a dozen times, but it’s not reliable nor do we know a pattern to get that kind of sleep. i.e. no matter how much he sleeps during the day, he still wakes up at night.
So we are asking…help our baby sleep. What are your tips and what worked for you? I have read the books, I know the techniques of “gentle sleep coaching” but we have a few problems.
1. Logan is still swaddled with his arms in. We have tried one arm out, two arms out, no swaddle, etc. but he needs the swaddle to sleep well. So when he wakes up and we consider letting him cry, the swaddle makes him more mad because he can’t kick and roll around. He may roll over and get stuck, he may kick his legs out and his arms are trapped. How do we break the swaddle? When did you do it and how?
2. Logan can roll back to front but not back. He gets stuck when he rolls to his belly, and then gets mad he can’t go back. Then he is crying because he is mad, wakes himself up more, and we have to go roll him back over. Most of the time he is really mad by now so he keeps rolling and getting stuck. The only way out of it is to pick him up. Then the game is over and he wins.
3. Because he is swaddled and can’t roll back, we don’t think we can just let him cry. We have tried letting him cry, but he never goes back to sleep. It just makes him more mad and he ends up screaming.
Basically, we know he should be sleeping all night. He has done it, he weighs enough that he doesn’t need the food, and he is getting better at self-soothing during the day that he should be ok overnight. What are your tips? Did you let them cry? Did it miraculously happen on its own? Help!